According to Dr John Marsden of the UK's National Addiction Center, "Attraction and lust really is like a drug. It leaves you wanting more." Love gives you the buzz of taking drugs and there is withdrawal too. He also suggests that our animal instincts, our biology search for someone to mate with and there is a built in sex trap, a booby-trap if you will, because the more you have sex with a particular person, the more likely you are to fall in love with that person whether you want to or not.
Perhaps, I think, a regular sex buddy on the side may ruin a long term relation and you may inadvertantly fall in love with someone that really isn't good for you unless you want to have children. Ah... it's so complicated. Dr Marsden thinks that love lasts from 3-7 years. That's not good news if you've already had some children with your beloved.
There is more to this romantic love thing. Now the University of Pavla has also done love research and they maintain that romantic love only lasts one year. They have discovered a brain chemical responsible for the 'first flush of love'. They discovered that it's raised levels of a protein which are linked to "feelings of euphoria and dependence experienced at the start of a relationship." Ah remember the days when you were stupid in love and married that person anyway? In the long run those levels go back to normal and the love actually becomes more stable if it lasts. The love turns deeper and more companionate after the thrill is gone. Now that comes in handy if you have kids because you can pay attention to them so they don't grow up ignored and end up on the Springer Show.
But even if the thrill of new love is gone and you are still in a close personal relationship with someone that you don't want to break up with or think you should break up with because you think that new love is better, even though new love won't push your wheelchair some day, there is something that may be on your shelves by 2007 if you can last that long. A sex spray? Indeed. A nasal inhaler may light up your dead errogenous zones by acting on your brain chemicals. And isn't that really where love and sex reside? This spray can help to make you horny again. It's more than a viagra type drug which only works on the vascular system. While testing a sunless tanning agent, Melanotan II, PT-141 was discovered. The columnist, Susan Cheever in Newsday, has a lot to say about the ups and downs of this discovery.
Speaking about viagra type drugs, Mick Jagger's ex-wife, Jerry Hall is now the spokesmodel for erectile dysfunction in Great Britain. She believes a healthy love and sex life shouldn't be just for the young. She doesn't say in the article whether or not she believes that a healthy love life depends soley on the man's boner but all this attention to erectile dysfunction seems to indicate that.
There's a lot to be said about giving and taking in a relationship. When one party is not into doing anything to maintain a happy, healthy relationship except maybe popping a viagra once a month, I'd say that the relationship has pretty much run its course. It's a good thing for couples to find mutual interests and hobbies they can share in the long run. That's the key to healthy love life. Companionship and trust are most important in older ages. Then comes the viagra.
But what the hell do I know?