Tuesday, March 28
Is It Difficult To Remove By Logic An Idea Not Placed There By Logic In The First Place.
In my experience, it has been a waste of a lot of time trying to convince people to relinguish behaviors that make no sense, that are maladaptive, that appear "illogical."
It has been my experience that confronting deeply held, habitual feelings and attitudes with logic seldom works. The things we do, the prejudices that we hold, and the repetitive conflicts that afflict our lives are seldom the products of rational thought. In fact, many appear to operate in the world mostly on autopilot, doing the same things today that didn't work yesterday. One would think that a process of learning or maturation would cause us to alter our behavior in response to unpleasant consequences. Anyone who has watched an average golfer play knows this is not true.
In fact, it sometimes seems that we are so trapped in ineffectual life patterns that we are playing out the old military adage: If it doesn't work, double it.
The motivations and habit patterns that underlie most of our behavior are seldom logical: we are much more often driven by impulses, preconceptions, and emotions of which we are only simply aware of. Even an average salesperson knows this.
When struggling to overcome maladaptive behaviors by the use of logic, one is often confronted witht he fact that some ignornace is invincible. People can become wedded to their particular view of how things should work that they ignore all evidence that suggests that change is necessary.
When I was getting sober I heard the old adage about "Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you're getting." Such a simple concept. There was no criticism to that statement. It did not beget anger on my part. The ball was in my court and my task was to pick it up and take a try a different game plan.
Why is it do you suppose that we try to rationalize with the irrational?
Is it just me or is that not an act of futility?